Success can be measured in oh-so-many ways

I recently stumbled across an article about a New York City mother who is suing her daughter’s preschool for not adequately preparing her daughter for an Ivy League education.

Suing?  A Preschool?  For not preparing her kid for Harvard?  She can’t be serious.

But, oh, she is.  Here is the story:

There are several parts of this story that make it difficult for me to relate to.  First, you’d be hard pressed to find a parent in Lenawee County paying $19,000 a year for preschool.  Preschools in our area cost about a tenth of that figure, and many parents find that to be too costly.

Secondly, I feel confident that we, as a group, have begun to understand the importance of parental involvement when educating our child.  The parents of Southeast Michigan seem to understand that it is a combination of the schools and parents working together that lead to the success of our children. Quality teachers and schools are crucial, but the school alone shouldn’t shoulder that responsibility.

But most importantly, when I think of the success of my child, a degree from Harvard is not going guarantee anything.  (Sure, it’d be great to have my kids go to Ivy League or top ranked schools.  I spent four years as an editorial assistant at the Yale School of Medicine and I can assure you there is something fantastic about being inside those walls.  I’ve never pretended to have taken a class there, but even having a paycheck signed by the good people at Yale made me feel smarter and more successful… but I digress) I measure the success of my children by their happiness.  And their willingness to give of themselves.  And that they are nice people.  Frankly, when we are speaking of my 4-year-old, I consider a day that she hasn’t tried to cut her own hair a great success.

Not to mention, if I am doing my job properly, my child can attend Little Indian Preschool, then move onto Herrick Park Elementary, and onto Tecumseh Middle School and High School, and STILL go to Harvard.  If they want to.  Because if I have done my job, my kid is a hard worker, does her best, takes pride in her work, and she doesn’t rely on the school she is attending or how much I paid for it to get her into a good college.

I don’t  care where my kids go to college.  I just want them to grow into happy and confident adults that understand that they are the guide to their own success, or failures.  I will love them regardless.  What kind of a person is this mom in New York molding her child into if she plans to blame the preschool for the child’s potential failure.

Perhaps things are different in New York City.  I can probably promise that they are.  But in this case, I think our kids are better for it.

How do you feel about this lawsuit ?

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