By: Megan Fortman/
There is something that happens to our minds when we feel like we hit rock bottom. It’s that feeling we get when we think God has forgotten us. Most of the time we know that is not the case but instead of trusting his plan we take the victim highway and ride it’s route as long as possible. But what happens when that punch to the gut is your own flesh and blood? What if that helplessness, why me? feeling comes to you when you’re holding your brand new baby girl for the first time. When you’re so blinded by the fact your baby is different that you fail to see her beauty.
Sometimes that nowhere to turn feeling forces you to look up, and sometimes when you look up you realize you have always been blind. Sometimes the path you need to be on and the person you want to become is hidden in the 8lb 11oz baby girl that’s in your arms, perfectly melted into your body, loving you, trusting that the person you already are is the person she needs.
There was a time I couldn’t make that promise to be that person for her but I was determined to be everything she would need. When you bring a baby into a world that sees her as less than “perfect”, you are forced to investigate what that word actually means. The definition of perfect is “having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.” When you put the term into perspective it seems laughable for anyone to really judge another human on their worth. Are any of us really “perfect”? Of course not, and that’s what makes us as individuals so great! Yet everyday we judge each other on whatever it might be that makes you or I less than perfect.
The very thing that once left me feeling like my world was over, gifted me with the lesson of acceptance. When you’re mission in life becomes teaching acceptance, you quickly learn to accept what you cannot control. Through acceptance comes whole hearted love and with love we are unstoppable.
Sure there are days when circumstances aren’t my favorite, when the body in the mirror isn’t the one I always dreamt of, or the days Down Syndrome feels like it’s defeating us. But, at the end of the day I go to bed knowing I am one of the lucky ones. Lucky to have been gifted with the ability to always look at the bright side and find something beautiful in every day and everyone. For me that gift was Down Syndrome. What will it be for you? What will it take for you to stop judging yourself and your neighbors and just thank God for the opportunity to walk next to them? If not for yourself, do it for Amelia and so many others just like her. Help make a world that sees her beauty before her differences. Be the change that allows Amelia to be what she really is, perfect.
Hello I’m Megan Fortman! Just your typical wife and Mom driving a big ol’ van full of crazy cute kids, trying to wear real pants as little as possible and drink as much coffee as humanly possible. I have spent majority of my life on one road in Tecumseh and am a Tecumseh high school graduate. There is no where I would rather raise my family than here in this perfectly small town. I am constantly on a mission to share our very normal lives that happens to be enhanced with an extra chromosome. I can’t think of a better place to break the stigmas on Down Syndrome with one Amelia smile at a time.by